How Do Successful Couples Navigate a Charged Conversation?

We've studied three thousand couples. What were the successful couples doing during their conflicts? And you know, a couple of things that they did that were so important is, one, described themselves. They talked about wht they needed from their partner. In particular, they mentioned the positive need, not the negative need. So we saw positive results when couples described themselves, not described their partners. Also worked hard to understand their partners point of view for they worked on a solution or a compromise. We found 87 % of couples, using those questions, could actually make reakthroughs ons that have been gredlocked in the relationship for years. It created huge breakthroughs in people being