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Help I Stumbled Into The Girls Bathroom

Help I Sexted My Boss

CHAPTER

Navigating Romantic Complexities

This chapter explores the intricacies of romantic relationships, focusing on a persistent gym coach and the dynamics of casual versus serious connections. The speakers share humorous anecdotes and personal insights about emotional challenges, trust, and the thrill of pursuit in dating. They also discuss ethical dilemmas surrounding engagement rings and the emotional weight of commitments in relationships.

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Speaker 2
Maybe invite an ex to the wedding. What about pursuing for a year and all of a sudden drop? Yeah. Because I feel like that is a classic problem the girls struggle with. Does this have photos
Speaker 1
as well? Yes.
Speaker 2
Oh my god. Yes. It does. Okay. So,
Speaker 1
G&D was listening. Can you send in photos now going forward? Because this is my new
Speaker 4
photo. I don't want to see photos of shit and dogs chucking and bulldozers. As long as it's not. It
Speaker 3
just helps us paint the picture. It's good to get a visual. Oh, we just love it.
Speaker 4
Yeah.
Speaker 3
Okay, so he pursued me for a year and has all of a sudden dropped me. Hey girls, here's my dilemma, a bit of a long one. So this guy I met at the gym over a year ago now, he's one of the coaches. How do you feel about PT?
Speaker 2
The different spashers. Oh, brilliant. I'm going out with my PT.
Speaker 4
Okay.
Speaker 1
Pump it up Pete. Well, when
Speaker 3
my mom used to go to the gym, David Lloyd West-Bridgford, Nottingham, she said all of the PTs were sleeping with all the wives, all the women.
Speaker 4
We were husbands and kids. It's an epidemic in Burnley, apparently. No, honestly, my brother's not allowed to go to CrossFit. They're not shagging each other. I mean,
Speaker 2
we used to go to F45, and I went out for drinks with them all once. It's like a
Speaker 4
Swingers Club there literally.
Speaker 2
And I got all the gossip and I was like, this is pre-sex fest. Yeah. Wives coming in, you've been sleeping with blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Six o'clock in the morning. How much is a
Speaker 4
membership?
Speaker 2
Joking.
Speaker 3
OK, so so he pursued me for a year. I met this guy at the gym every year ago. He's one of the coaches and I just go there as a hobby. I'm 27 and he's 23. Okay. But love me a younger guy. When we first met, we had just come out of a relationship and had just graduated uni. It was clear it was just friend vibes, but with a bit of flirting occasionally. Gradually he started to pursue me, asking me out for coffee, asking if we could go to a gym event together and I turned it down because I was dealing with bad anxiety at the time so he would come and go quite often. Fast forward to November slash December, December 2023 I'm at the gym almost every day prepping for my holiday and I see him there every day. He starts to text me all the time, acting really obsessed with me, phoning me, FaceTiming me. Wow. Every night and all the usual stuff. FaceTimes, whoa, someone's keen. Anyway, five days before I go on holiday, he tells me he has feelings for me, but I didn't take it seriously because I hadn't got that vibe from him at all. He, and I, they've not been on a date. No, they've not had a date or a kiss. But they see each
Speaker 2
other all the time. All the time. He
Speaker 3
didn't take it very well, obviously. And then we didn't speak again for a while, just sort of moved past it. So he said, I love you. Well, I like you. And she said, well, well. And then they didn't speak. OK. helped him with his business and he's helped me with mine and there's just always been this attraction there. Get to March and the same sort of thing continues. He says he's going to take me to London, which never went ahead. Then says he's going to take me to the spa, but then cancel the morning off, which made me block him. Then we start talking properly again in June and decide to actually take things a little further. Jesus has been going on for a while. We both say we don't know what we want as we have a lot of work going on but want to try and take things slow. He starts taking me out for drinks, finally dinner and then we finally sleep together. He's religious but I'm a spiritual girly and I told him that sex is an energy swap. Wow. Well you use a lot of energy in your lips. And it means a lot to me because I've been celibate for two years. Wow.
Speaker 2
So she'll finally let him in. You've been speaking to this literally.
Speaker 1
Now you know that's not true. How would I know that? Carry on. So
Speaker 3
I've been celibate for two years, you know, and I finally let him in because I trusted him and I thought why not. Anyway, after we sleep together, his energy pulls back massively. He starts canceling plans again and I basically called it off, which he didn't take well and neither did I. God. He said he doesn't know what he wants. He's very confused and doesn't want to hurt me because I get annoyed at him all the time for canceling plans, but he says he's just busy. Is that a good excuse? No. He says he has feelings for me, but still I'm just so confused. It's got me questioning myself and everything because why did he pursue me for so, so long and then decide he doesn't want me? Like, is there something wrong with me? Yeah. Like you used to be FaceTiming me every night. Like you're calling me. I want to see you. I want to see you. I want to see you. And then you finally sat with me. You know what sex means to me because I've been celebrating. Spiritual girly. Spiritual and it's a energy swap. I broke no contact with him today and have been left undelivered. What makes it so complicated is I still have to see him in the gym every day. And I won't change gyms because it's a very tight knit community community. Community. And hi, I have a lot of friends there. I've attached pics of us. Brilliant. Not together, unfortunately, but just need some advice girls. Thank you. Right, this is our Sarah.
Speaker 4
Right. Gorgeous.
Speaker 3
Oh, gorgeous fitness girl. Incredible. Oh, she's stunning. Oh, gorgeous.
Speaker 4
You see, I wish you were this enthusiastic for our podcast. You're well into this, aren't you? It's like, it's like, girls, I want to come in for that.
Speaker 3
Here's Brian. Ooh, okay. Dirty Air Force on, I will say. Dirty Air Force. Let's have a look. Air Force. Oh,
Speaker 2
Christ. For those of you that have the microphone stands just for William's ass.
Speaker 4
Yeah. I, you, William, do you want to go on this one? I would say that. He's
Speaker 1
just doing it for the thrill of the hunt. The chase. And now he's got his prey to carry on. He's not interested. He might then be, he might then want to sleep with her again, but after a period of ignoring her, making her feel desperate, she needs to move on. Sarah, it's
Speaker 4
really tough this. It genuinely is. And I think William's right. He's got what he wanted. And I know that's awful to say it like that as well, but I really do think you have to come to this guy. And you'll have so many questions like why he's done it, pursue me for you, what done. But if you really wanted to see him, no one's too busy. Yeah, so true. If you really wanted to see him, you better. Would you agree?
Speaker 3
Definitely. It sounds like it was just a fun little challenge from a fun little game. Yeah, which sounds
Speaker 2
awful to say. We always say like if you're a celibate girl as well, thinking, but he's perceived me free. Yeah.
Speaker 3
And he said this and like men can say a lot, but actions speak loud. Yeah. Yeah. And the being left on delivered is just that's the final. That's brutal.
Speaker 2
So how can she play this now? Because she's
Speaker 4
not willing to change. Ignore him. Ignore him. And just in the gym, I wouldn't even acknowledge him to be fair. I know that's gonna be hard. I'd just say hi and if he comes up, just kind of keep it short and sweet. Cut the conversation down. Because he'll probably come up and be like, hey, how are you? You
Speaker 2
think he'll try and like, lure her in again? Because her doing that will
Speaker 4
be so empowering. Yeah. Defer. He will.
Speaker 3
She's got to be very self disciplined. Yes, she does. She has to be strong. Sarah. She's messaged him now. You need to not do that again. Yeah.
Speaker 4
Don't do it again, honestly. And he will not know what's hitting when you're just really golden. Yeah, he'll see a different side too. And it'll be hard. And he'll come up and he'll probably, after a couple of times, he might be like, oh, let's go for that dinner and stuff. Yeah. Nope.
Speaker 3
Call the shots.
Speaker 4
100%. We're quite good at this. Oh my God, getting the guns back for you. No
Speaker 1
way, yeah. Okay, so here are some dilemmas from our TV. Okay, so. Oh God, I hope they've not showed us up. This is a short one. This first one is from Stephen. Dibbilymond Jordan, my workmate Derek, has been in multiple relationships where he felt the need to propose but has never intended to get married. That's
Speaker 3
awful! Oh,
Speaker 1
this is nothing.
Speaker 3
That's so bad. This is nothing. His
Speaker 1
current dilemma is how to ask for an engagement ring back once the relationship has ended. Spending
Speaker 3
a lot of cash. Is
Speaker 1
it acceptable to ask for an engagement ring back?
Speaker 2
and maybe not support, but understand him asking for it back is if it was like a family heirloom. And it was like his grandmother's great-great ring that he passed along and maybe then she cheated on him. And he was like, how dare you? I want my ring back. Otherwise, stop fucking proposing.
Speaker 1
Would you say it depends on who broke off the engagement? If he's the one breaking off the engagement, I don't think he can. If he paid for the ring, and then he breaks off the engagement.
Speaker 2
That's a good point. You've got to resolve that loss. Because I feel like a lot of women, like if I broke up, if I ended an engagement, I would be like, oh, take it back. I don't want it. Dramatic. Take it off, throw it. Don't want it anymore.
Speaker 3
Or maybe I'd sell it actually. I would definitely keep it in a box.
Speaker 4
Asking
Speaker 3
for it back. God. Well, obviously he needs the cash he wants to sell it on.
Speaker 4
Or he wants it for his next lead. He needs to learn his lesson. He needs to. If he's engaged. Let's
Speaker 3
give him Ross. So Steven needs to say to his friend. Stop getting down on one knee. You can't get it back. You gave it to her. He's a pathological engager. It's scary. A pathological proposer. That's very scary. Imagine proposing without the intent to get married. But then also
Speaker 2
imagining dating someone and meeting someone and finding out that they've proposed to six girls.
Speaker 1
Yeah. Yeah. And they've been engaged. That's very scary.
Speaker 4
Who is this? Yeah, Stacey was engaged loads before Gavin. Oh. I have. This is my main the meme of, you know, how like there's a meme or there's always videos on TikTok of like a guy will come over from work and be like, oh, so is self split up with the wife. Oh, yeah. And the wife about up. Tell me more about us all. I know. Yeah. How's this? I don't know. He just said it worked. It up.

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