In 12 step recovery, we talked all the time about keeping our side of the street clean. And what comes from that is a degree of peace. In relationship, this becomes very difficult at times because we go, well, my intent was, and you took it x way. The tone about the shoes in the doorway might be a two on its own. But if you've talked with that tone for five years, it might be an eight now. If your partner had a dad who was slightly angry, when you use a very mildly angry tone, they might react it in eight. So impact and intent can very often be mismatched.
In this Episode, You Will Learn...
- The fundamental quality of recognizing the good in and having compassion for ourselves and how it's foundational in how we show up in relationships
- Recognizing tension in relationships and developing practices to help you determine what to do or say and when
- Asking yourself to choose harmony or truth in conflicts and how if you routinely choose one, you can end up with neither.
- Why it's important to admit fault and how it's a strength, not a weakness
- Using wise speech is about how we say something and it can have more impact than what we say
- The useful strategy of making small agreements that can improve larger issues in a relationship
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