I Feel Your Jubilation, I Feel Your Pain

i try to make some of my critiques of feminism centred on pro woman values and approaches, so that im so that they get a little confused. i think just asking questions, getting a sense of what their, what common values might be is good. I really support more of a relationship, building a broach, then if you're asked to share your perspective, then trying to share it in a way that engages with something you think that they may also value. A jacob says, if we have friends and family that are very new age feminists, what is the best way to engage discussion with them?