You Must Be Competent as a Man

"I can't imagine life as a man who wasn't competent, but I know for sure it must be miserable. You're a feather in the wind," he says. "You've handed all control of your life over to somebody else." He recalls being scared of the dark when he was five years old and his father gave him a nightlight so he wouldn't have to play chess at bedtime. The episode airs tonight on CNN's "This Is Life with Lisa Ling" 9 p.m. ET/PT; 10 p.m., ET / PT.