What Is Being Sensited About Intimacy?

I think of this narrator of Janet as being quite uncomfortable with intimacy or can't quite figure out her relationship to intimacy. She says something like Nicola would never be able to detect the difference in her treatment of her. And I do think with the father we're seeing a similar version of that of care but with a remove and trying to negotiate what is the comfortable distance to keep from somebody. It seemed to me that paying such close attention in fact dramatizing what ought to be a most secret activity was asking for trouble. Anything exposed that way was apt to flare up and go crazy.