Type 1- Enneagram Stances and Attachment Styles
The Art of Growth
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The Positive Side of Retaining
If it's relational and I feel like my performance is being criticized or my character is called in a question, I will go to the withdrawing stance that usually is triggered by shame. It does not meet my needs when I'm in that space. But when I withdraw, then I disengage from relationship. And then when I disengagefrom relationship, it hurts the people I'm in relationship with. And then that adds more shame. Then it takes me longer to dig myself out of that hole and then make things right and then get on with relationship. Sometimes that could be ours.
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