Ask yourself, what do i get to not feel, not experience, not face, not do, by not making this decision? Or by waffling for a long time when you're waffling between the yes and the no of that decision. And we got to get the charge out of why it is so anxiety provoking for you to do it. Sometimes we don't have the skills because growing up, and if we stayed connected to our family in this way, that decisions were made for you. Some parents never can successfully negotiate the transition from parenting children to having a relationship with adult children,. where you'll always feel parental towards them. It gets very disordered and distorted when parents