How Do You Decide Which One Is Blowing and Which Is Not?

I've always found domesticity and sex hard to put together because I don't know when you're all you know, you've had much dinner. You can start with one and then it goes to the other but how does it get decided? Somebody has to like the first move right like but so but there's no No, no sort of like pattern with it in the gay world. And at some point if you go all the way to Baghdad, it's gonna get boring Yeah, I mean I and you can lie to yourselves about that I think but I think at some point you also may love someone That's the problem the love remains.