How to Get Conditional Positive Self Regard

The real and ideal self is the part of you that's founded in your actualizing tendency. And society very much places emphasis on the ideal self, not the real self. Our insecurities are in our ideal self. We can never attain it because it isn't as strong as we want to be. But we will always strive for a better version of ourselves. It's like a dog with a hore in his stomach eating food. You knot the sun. That's what rogers would call your real self. If i'm continually creating and am happy with my creativity, then i'm quite a happy person. I don't know how to be any other way. So it doesn