Anger is a often described as a form of idolatry, and i think that gets part of what we're talking about. The idea that when things go awry, for me, iam somehow being violated, right? I have a sense of moral indignity because i wanted control and i wanted to turn out a certain way. That's a little bit, i argue, whether you're religious or not, i think you should perhaps think about pushing back against that as a a, as a moral response.