I Love You, but I'm Not in Love With You

When we have these glimpses of awareness that there is an enthusiasm discrepancy, it can feel really, really tender. Feeling like you like someone more than they like you can spike deep feelings of vulnerability and fear. And feeling like somebody likes you more than you like them can spike feelings of guilt and feelings of confusion. Just tolerating the feelings and noticing them instead of acting on them, gives us a chance to practise patience, to practise curiosity, to practise persistence in the presence of loves.