The Double Bind Is the Deepest of All

In zen the double bind is put on you deliberately knowing how stupid it is. A teacher strings his student out over a period of many months until he comes to the point of seeing this. The more you do, the foneyor you are but at the opposite extreme there is nothing you can not do that is to say you cannot give up trying to be. Trying my very best to do so is that the answer you wanted no you wanted her to say darling i can't help loving you  I love you so much i could eat you and yet that is what you put on people in almost any marriage ceremony.