truthfulness should always be subject to non violence. So being disrespectful is about your intention so you can say, this is disgusting. And in that moment, when you try to spare some one's feelings,. I'm not saying set out to hurt them. That's what him sowht is. We want to do ahimsa, the lack of violence. Yet, what if someone is sensitive and you lie not to hurt them? You can't necessarily control someone else's reaction. This is another huge problem that we run into with being inauthentic...We make ourselves responsible for other people's reactions"