Sarah: One of the big questions that I hear a lot is why am I not enough for him? She says it's very likely that this habit was around before you may have even come into picture. Sarah: It actually could be as simple as men wanting to escape from emotions and so what I want to offer too is like if that feels too far-fetched for you to believe you don't have to believe that yet but you can always offer yourself these open-ended statements or ideas like "if that's possible"