Tinder

The first thing you do in the first few minutes is make the girl feel comfortable and safe. She's not going to bring any of that out at the beginning because girls are far more harshly judged for deviating from the mean than guys are. Once you get to know a girl and she feels comfortable with you all her weirdness is will come out but she's just as weird as you in totally different ways. You can be standing there with two glasses of water and be like hey you know I'm sorry like the place was crowded I had no idea blah blah blah like and then you make a joke about itShe comes in it's like oh I got water and we'll get gelato