Are You Dishonoring Your Boundaries?

I've felt that way before like I have been intimidated by others because they're so sure of themselves and they have their personal boundaries. And then I interpret it because I'm insecure as being a dick or being an asshole or being an impatience. Like let's take the podcasting thing. Okay if if if you show up half an hour late. And I'm like no I'm not doing it because I only have a half an hour because I've got another meeting that I committed to. You know what I mean. It's ultimately about the work product. But why when we come back to social issues or our personal relationships or whatever it is we don't seem to have the capability