Lesbians and Hat Fantasies - Is That What Makes You Less of a Lesbian?

If you're a lesbian who has kinky, het fantasies, does that make you less of a lesbian? I think that the thing is, and it this is similar to what you mentioned in our last episode as well, like absolutely not, your identity is for you to define and redefine. The word lesbian or the identity of lesbian can encapsulate you in most ways, but maybe it misses you. This doesn't define who and how you are. There's not a threshold that you have to reach in order to be like, do I fit into this club or not? And I think that sometimes that can feel really exclusionary.