Sally Kohn: Saying no is emotional work. It really is. I have to say no a lot. And it's hard, and sometimes the other people get upset. We often do ignore the emotional side of some of thi otherwise seemingly dry technical productivity stratege that there is an emotional side to it. But just emotionally, because of the way it plays on our innerpersonal social network wiring in our brain, tha lived experience is often quite distressful. So here's the authors here. They saw how our cultural conditioning as women, academics and public servants contributed to our difficulty with setting boundaries,. tracking not just how often we said yes or no, but also our emotional responses