Being Subject and Object - Transcendence and Imminence

There's tension created by the fact that we are both subject and object. Smon de bevoir creates two collections of behaviors, each one of them respectively embodying one side of this tension between being a subject and an object. Transcendent is to strive for freedom, imminence embodies all the virtues that go along with being an object in the world. If hon of your friends ask you for advice on how to live their life, which would you tell them? To be more transcendent or more imminent?