There's this idea that we're supposed to be able to fix sadness, says Tobe. We have to sit with it and there is no business case in medicating things early on. Music has been shown to reduce stress and depression and anxiety. Act music can be a really good companion in our sadness. And i think the same is true with books as well. You're reading about a character but you're also putting yourselves in their shoes.
We react to sadness in a variety of unhelpful ways. We try to suppress it. We experience guilt over it and apologise to the people around us for feeling it. We assume it means we've failed. We even fear it.
But sadness will touch us all - and to be happier and more resilient we need to accept the emotion and work with it to make our lives better. Journalist Helen Russell (author of How to be Sad: Everything I've Learned About Getting Happier by Being Sad Better.) joins Dr Laurie Santos to explain why our view of sadness needs to be rehabilitated.
You can purchase her book, How To Be Sad at - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/how-to-be-sad-helen-russell?variant=33051661762594 - and follow her @MsHelenRussell on social media platforms.
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