How to Reward Candor When You Deploy Feedback

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You've got to listen with the intent to understand not to respond. If you if you get defensive that is the last time you'll ever get feedback so you've got to master that instinct don't feel bad about it but master it. Reward the candor by giving them credit for changing your mind and improving your work. You usually don't 100% disagree with 100% of what somebody said there's some little thing you can agree with and then say, I'm not sure I agree with some of your other points may I think about it and get back to you.

Kim Scott: Radical Candor Kim Scott is a co-founder of Candor, Inc. She has been an advisor at Dropbox, Kurbo, Qualtrics, ReelGoodApp, Rolltape, Shyp, Twitter, and several other Silicon Valley companies. She is the author of the book Radical Candor: Be a Kickass Boss without Losing your Humanity*. Key Points Show you care at a personal level. You can’t build a relationship that’s not personal. In order to care personally for someone, you have to bring your whole self, not just your “business” persona. Sometimes we get so focused on the work that we forget there’s actually a person doing the work. Begin by soliciting feedback, not by giving it. To get feedback, come up with a go-to question like “Is there anything I could do or stop doing that would make it easier to work with me?” Resources Mentioned Radical Candor* by Kim Scott Radical Candor podcast Book Notes Download my highlights from Radical Candor in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes Start With Why, with Simon Sinek (episode 223) How to Manage Abrasive Leaders, with Sharone Bar-David (episode 290) How to Get the Ideal Team Player, with Patrick Lencioni (episode 301) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.