How Past Bad Relationships Improved Current One

Have you ever dated someone you knew, logically, was a bad idea? A puppeteer twenty years your senior, perhaps?

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Melanie Bracewell has, and she joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer the question, ‘who do you go to advice for? Why?’ (spoiler: it’s not her puppeteer ex-boyfriend).

Unpacking the disarming realisation that all of our parents were once our age, Mel talks to the guys about making useful mistakes in your twenties, finding a litmus for what loves looks and feels like, and how to make friends with people as an adult (who aren’t already on your netball team).

Mel bonds with Hugh about the realities of an ADHD brain and the fallacy of thinking you are super organised for something, and most importantly, the burst of self-compassion that can come from a diagnosis.

Mel, we’ll be your side-by-side friend.

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🫖Other imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Matt Okine - Comedy & Tragedy - http://bit.ly/4q5LW8f
• Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken but Not Broken - http://bit.ly/4qcCHDy
• Campbell ‘Struthless’ Walker - Withdrawing with Drawing - http://bit.ly/4q8MHgO

📺Things to watch

• Cheap Seats - http://bit.ly/3KNoEnA
• Mel’s YouTube Special ‘Forget Me Not’ - http://bit.ly/4hbCQ63

💻Things to check out

• Meladoodle (Mel’s Tumblr blog) - http://bit.ly/4mXO1AF

🎟️Things to buy tickets for

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0:00 – Can you just give me the clothes off your back?
12:48 – Who do you go to for advice and why?
23:57 – Realising your parents are human too
27:20 – The no-strings puppeteer
31:24 – A lot to un-pack, a lot to understand
35:56 – Side by side relationships
43:16 – Making useful mistakes
50:02 – Dodging a break-ups and short term memory loss
59:27 – Replying to negative comments


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