"If you don't do that you will construct a life that is unsatisfying all the way along hoping eventually you can shift at the end and make some sort of great Hail Mary moment in your life," he says. "In this sense today most people's lives their castle actually is their workplace and their friends and family and time and love is left on the fringe" He adds: "We lie to ourselves we tell ourselves I'm doing this so that one day I can do this" 'I was doing this like book tour thing I'm speaking everywhere you know how it is'  He ends his talk by telling us two key things about himself, saying they're painful because nobody does