The original meaning of fetish refers to an idol, like a religious idol. To think that when confronted with these irreconcilable choices, you cannot be a husband to your wife is foreclo. You cannot be a father to your children if you pretend to be a woman. The idea that now it's just okay that the state will tell you how much you'll provide, and other than that, you don't have to do anything, because of the fetish that you wanted to indulge,. It's just really insulting to the family," she says.