How to Unlearn Yourself and Care for Yourself

There was a subconscious need being triggered there, not that you need your boyfriend to pay attention to you all the time. That's something that you have to unlearn, right? But there is some need or wound in there that is being activated when you feel ignored or unappreciated. Just because somebody has energy to take care of themselves doesn't mean that they're doing something hurtful. So what are you going to tell yourself the next time you feel activated or triggered to feel rejected?