Adaptations as second-layer self

If you've ever tried to change something about yourself, failed, tried again, and concluded you must just be broken, here's some good news: you're probably not broken. You've just been aiming at the wrong target for years. Who you are is actually a layered system. Most people fail at change because they treat behaviors like permanent traits and traits like behaviors they can flip overnight, spending years aiming at the wrong layer.

In this episode, Drew and I map out the full system. This is the longest and most personal episode we've ever done.

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CHAPTERS

Chapters

• 00:00:00 Introduction: What Does It Mean to Change?
• 00:13:18 The Dictionary Study: How 17,953 Words Led to the Big Five
• 00:49:06 Chapter 2: Why the Myers-Briggs Is Basically a Horoscope for Smart People
• 01:02:17 The Barnum Effect: Why We Believe Tests That Tell Us Nothing
• 01:20:52 The Maturity Principle: How Personality Drifts With Age
• 01:36:08 Chapter 3: Layer Two: Your Adaptations Are Not Who You Are
• 02:25:55 Why Relationships Are Adaptation Machines
• 02:37:55 Chapter 4: Layer Three: Why We Don't Do What We Know We Should Do
• 02:44:06 The Checklist That Saved 1,500 Lives
• 02:56:57 The Do Something Principle: Start With the Smallest Step
• 03:04:32 Environmental Design: Make the Right Thing Easier Than the Wrong Thing
• 03:20:18 Social Pressure, Strong Whys, and the CrossFit Effect
• 03:44:35 Chapter 5: Quantum Change: The Night Josh Died
• 03:54:55 Values Collapse: What Actually Changes in a Quantum Change
• 04:17:55 Chapter 6: Bill Wilson: The Man Who Invented AA (And Still Struggled)
• 04:32:00 The Messy Middle Nobody Shows You
• 04:50:27 Should You Even Change at All? The Three Selves
• 04:57:13 Final Takeaways: Pain Is a Great Teacher

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