Is There a Parent Kind of Being Static for the Attachment Types?

It took me multiple years of therapy to realize that other people might simply Just be saying things out of spite and not actually be helpful like I don't always need to take in their recommendations. There's a there's a real assumption of like the parent kind of being static for the attachment types, right? And Change is not possible on their side or it's not to be expected or not to be Like it's it's all over here on me These things are poles. These are poles on the ground that I have to Work around work aroundAnd figure out how to develop a sense of self and how to function given how they what they do um That's an important distinction because in my head