Is It a Shivish Guy or a Modern Guy?

In the beginning when I was getting very very like sweet from guys that were very very quiet so I initially wrote passion education in Kiruv and a lot of guys would respond back or people you know trying to send me up would say it was coming across that I was very from because of a more quote unquote modern guy. So okay then I was like I'll tweak that right I'll change that a little bit someone who is open minded and you know interested in growth. When I felt like I was dating guys that were too modern I would compensate by saying who wants to oh wow I'm looking for someone who shares my excitement to enjoy life in build home of Torah and mitzvot