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The Gray Area with Sean Illing cover image

This changed how I think about love (with Alison Gopnik)

The Gray Area with Sean Illing

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The Gardener or the Carpenter Approach to Parenting?

From an evolutionary perspective, childhood is really a way for the whole species to get out of those local minimums. So if you're trying to shape who your child becomes too much, you're actually cutting against the evolutionary purpose of children. "I regret using that title because then what happened was there were a zillion parenting blogs that said, which style do you have? Should you be a gardener or a car?"

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