You're Holding an Open Flame and There's a Strange Genitalia on You

A really fun place to start is just by like narrating a hypothetical scenario with with your partner or telling your partner before you have sex. As you're starting to play with it, the other really great thing to think about is tone. You can do it with no workshops or no training, but like tell your partner, for example, I want to be called a dirty little slut, but I want you to do it in a very gentle and warm tone as I'm getting used to it. And or I want to hear it in a super mean tone, or I just want to hear neutral things in a mean tone, like get on the bed, you know, in a mean stern