This week on Sex With Emily, we're tackling one of the most harmful and outdated questions in modern dating: "What's your body count?" In conversation with holistic psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Scott Lyons, we explore the troubling origins of this term, once used to count military casualties, and how it’s been repurposed to judge sexual history, often unfairly targeting women. We unpack the double standards rooted in purity culture, the insecurities this question provokes, and the shame it can breed in both high and low numbers. More importantly, we discuss why the number of sexual partners has nothing to do with sexual skill, emotional readiness, or compatibility.
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Timestamps:
00:00:00 - Body Count: A Sex-Positive Discussion
00:03:00 - Judging Past Relationships
05:51 - Body Count & Insecurities
08:24 - Why Judging is Wrong
10:46:38 - Historical Shame Roots
13:22 - Societal Shame & Body Count
15:47 - Regrets & Sexual Experiences
18:13 - Reframing the Conversation
22:44:04 - Ditching the Question
25:38 - Addressing Relationship Insecurities
37:53 - Pleasure, Goodbyes & Outro
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