I think it says something about what we were learning still as a couple. And i have a real aversion to pressuring anybody to do anything. Maybe it's because i value freedom so highly, because i am particularly sensitive to manipulation. I don't like, i don't like to feel like someone's trying to manipulate me. So there's something in me that just really tries not to do that to you or to my children. It's important in a relationship to be able to communicate what is important to you and what you need in the relationship. You knowy youo failure teaches absolutely that was a lesson that needed to be learned that hadn't been learned,. But that's what begs the