Why Arrival Won't Make You Happier

In this solo episode, I explore The Progress Principle, a concept discovered by two Harvard researchers who studied what really drives happiness and motivation. After analyzing thousands of daily journal entries, they found that the single biggest factor that keeps people inspired isn’t recognition, money, or praise—it’s the feeling of making progress. 

In this episode, I share how the tiniest forward motion sends a signal to the brain that says, “This feels good, do it again.” This isn’t just a nice mindset trick— it’s a complete rewiring of your brain’s reward system.

Our brains are generally wired to miss our own progress. We adapt so quickly to improvements that yesterday’s dream becomes today’s baseline. We also have a negativity bias; our minds cling to what’s not working instead of what is. The result? We feel stuck, unmotivated, or like we’re not doing enough, even when we’re growing in extraordinary ways.

I share exactly how to override that mental wiring with simple, science-backed tools so you can stay consistent and actually achieve your goals. 

What You’ll Learn:

• Why dopamine isn’t about reward-it’s about momentum.
• The “Done List” method that helps you reflect on and record your daily micro wins.
• How celebration strengthens new habits by pairing progress with positive emotion.
• Why asking someone else to reflect on your growth can transform your self-perception.
• How to reframe the “arrival fallacy” so you find joy in the journey, not just the finish line.

I’ll also walk you through my own story! How a conversation with my therapist sister changed how I think about effort and self-worth, and how acknowledging my small wins made me feel more capable, calm, and genuinely proud of my progress for the first time in years.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re spinning your wheels, constantly setting goals and falling off track, or measuring yourself against an impossible version of success, this episode is for you. 

✨ Homework: Pause for a moment today and write down three small things you’ve accomplished…no matter how ordinary they seem. Maybe you sent an email you’ve been avoiding, made a healthy meal, or got out of bed on a hard morning. That’s progress. That’s growth. That’s the chemistry of momentum in real time.

👇 Tell me in the comments: What’s one micro win you’re celebrating this week?

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