The Importance of Suffering in Parenting

A lot of people right now are confronting a really important question, which is how much suffering do you need to become a better person or evolve? And any? Is it a myth that stems from industrialization? Like you look back to pre industrial society. Clearly there was suffering, but it was a different kind of suffering. So who knows? I don't know the answer, but I do know that it's an easier choice than to let them tantrum and say, I can't give you candy. It'll your teeth will fall out. It's bad for you"