The Cost of Clinging to a Tradition

I'm really confused by why we just cling to this tradition. Like I did have one couple, they called off their wedding because the mom of the bride was so particular and worried about how things were going to be perceived. And then a year after that, like two years later, they ended up just eloping. They got back together. They eloped. But I think it was also money that everybody had, right? So the calculus was different. What is the point of making it a visually stunning event if you know that you're going to be kind of paying that back for forever?"