Nurturing Leadership: Parenting Styles in Action

🔑 Raising Giants: What Great Leaders Are Made Of

w/ Kris Vallotton & Steve Moore | Hosted by Gabe Valenzuela

“You don’t build leaders by controlling them. You build leaders by believing in them.”

What separates good leaders from great ones?

In this episode, Kris Vallotton and Steve Moore sit down with Gabe Valenzuela for a powerful conversation on what it truly means to raise giants—leaders who are trusted, empowered, and transformed from the inside out.

From practical leadership principles to deep spiritual truths, they unpack how trust, identity, and battle-tested relationships shape great leaders. Whether you're mentoring others or growing in your own leadership, this episode will challenge and equip you to lead with vision, integrity, and a father’s heart.

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[02:15] – What makes a great leader?

[04:45] – Becoming a trustworthy person

[07:15] – The art of trust-building

[11:44] – Why people bond in battle

[14:09] – How to grow people well

[19:52] – When leadership isn't control

[23:31] – Moments to be fathered and mothered

[30:05] – Perpetuating a leadership culture

[37:33] – Leading with the right heart posture

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• Leadership is not about control—it’s about connection and trust

• Culture isn’t taught, it’s caught. Leaders shape atmospheres by who they are, not just what they say

• You don’t need to be perfect to be powerful. Great leaders raise others by walking in humility, identity, and courage

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Kris Vallotton is the Co-Founder of BSSM and a Senior Leader at Bethel Church.

Steve Moore is the Senior Leader of Bethel Online.

Gabe Valenzuela is the Senior Overseer of the BSSM Second Year program.

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