"There is a way through if we actually had our priorities in order where we're actually going to view people who believe things different than us first and foremost as a person love them," she says. "It's endemic to our society day this is this sort of tribalism of what what we believe matters more than anything and it doesn't need to be that way" 'I was a bit of an ideological warrior and lots of fronts and the word compromise was always a dirty word,' writes author, with whom he also co-wrote new book on same subject.