JK Rowling: It's like you get to have a boundary as an adult, but you get to insist upon decency. If you hate me and I can tell that you hate me from the way you're saying something to me, I don't have to let that in. Don't think it's about our highest and best. She says there is a way of communicating criticism to women that actually is about the person's internal misogyny. "I do think this applies to friendships, to corporate America, to everything," she said.