What Is Our Agreement Around the Mud and Shoes?

When you engage a child like this, especially the strong willed ones, they like to know the answer. And then you move right into the choices, yo. Do you want to take your shoes off, fast like a cheeta, or slow like a sloth? Or do you want to put them in a bucket with warm water and use soapy water to wash them, or wash the soles? I could riff for hours on the amount of choices you could give, but that's the fourstep process. But i always like to teach people gita, get a neutral statement. Like, i my wall and my office is blue. The wall is blue. Would you like