Leadership Isn't Headship Is Headship

I think leadership is not trying to how do I do my best and the most loving way to get her to go my way right it's like now like how do I try my best for us to to try to figure out what the law wants us to do together if us to get on the same wavelength yeah because I think that's two different two different things. There has to be some honesty and some distinction between do you really want the Lord's will to be done in your marriage or do you want yours? And equally for the person who's called to be the more submissive role it's like are we are we submitting unto the Lord because we want the Lord’s will to