The Importance of Form in Relationships

I think I was just thinking about this idea of opting out as a way of so we think of opting out just for for someone like Lee it's just negative right but for her opting out is a way to both affirm the call of your own character we've said that and but also to connect with to have a genuine connection with other people again ties. She wrote to me she's like you know every time I get your emails I feel very badly because I Think oh I'm not he expects me to write this certain way and I'm just throwing this email  and I wrote back look do not I do not care one little bit don't It's just my own little idiosyncrasies