How Do Peopleouont Learn From Models of Desire

Seduction can be used in positive ways, or in negative and destructive ways. Social media really is a breeding ground for momatic desire. How do people learn from models of desire whose content they consume on social media without letting it go so far off the rails that those people basically are influencing every single choice in action? I don't know if there's any technology that will be built that will do the job for us. So we have to separate the content from the metaphysical like trance that certain people or communities can put on us.