Gemma says we need people in our lives who aren't afraid to be honest and keep us accountable. Reaching out to family, your friends, or a therapist is so valuable here. Gemma: Is there something that you are doing perhaps unconsciously that is not helpful? I think when we take time to reflect and to sit with our decisions and think about them consciously, often it's like a Pandora's box.
Sometimes our biggest enemy isn't others, it's ourselves. Self sabotage is a complicated psychological experience whereby we unconsciously undermine our own goals and wellbeing because of an implicit belief that we don't deserve our success, are afraid of failure, or cannot allow ourselves to be happy. From dating people we shouldn't, to procrastination, indecision, doom scrolling and self destructive behaviours, it all comes down to our unconscious beliefs about our self worth. Today we explore the origins and causes of self sabotage, from Freud's ideas of the 'death drive' and 'anti-self', coping mechanisms, to the impact of unresolved emotional trauma and self punishment to understand why it is we self sabotage, and how we can get out of our own way. Listen now.
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