Is Theology a Propaganda for Theology?

Took some re-learning and understanding of the bible to help him through his grief. He says we have a shame culture where we're all pretending that we're not sad about anything, because that would undermine the product of jesus. When i am sad, i feel ashamed of it, like i'm trying to hide it from my church community., he writes. But when these other practices are really about enjoying it, or not enjoying it, in joining with our community, we're actually incentivized by our theology to hide it,. That's right?