Not Every Girl Wants to Be in a Relationship Right Away

I learned not every girl wants to be in a relationship right away, which is something that my parents still believe and my mom's always just kind of weird about. And then what else? I should go pursue girls that are athletic or fit, go to mating markets where I might find them. And then I learned how to have like kind of a more adult relationship where where is this going talk. They feel somewhat at odds with each other. The people on date seem to want more out of the relationship than I do.