I think something I've had to really learn, which is maybe more like culturally coded to men to do, is to not be able to just hear pain. And the thing that I've learned a lot is that if you want to actually make someone feel better, almost always makes them feel worse unless they're asking for it. So even though it doesn't make you feel better with the pain, at least there's a purpose to it maybe. See, so there are two tears. Like this is empathy tears because yeah, it makes it mean more that it will serve a better purpose than just like emotional vomit.Like God forbid, I'm in a fucking emotional place with someone because it