Yeti says boarding school helped him find his place in the world. But it can be limiting if you don't get to choose much of your environment, she adds. Yeti: Structure is good for letting you trust your own judgment and make mistakes. Most of the living happens when things don't - that's certainly true. And this is one of the reasons why it's really good to recognize this and not demonize yourself. Even if its a system just for you, other people can be inspired by it.