In this episode, I’m joined by Tom Davies — author of Self Obsession — for a profound exploration of why we suffer and how to stop. We unpack how our fixation on identity — career, relationships, even personality — traps us in anxiety, grief, and striving. Drawing from both Western psychology and Eastern spirituality, Tom offers a clear and compassionate path toward freedom: letting go of false identification and realising what we really are.

Key Themes Highlighted

Self-Obsession & Identity: How our suffering arises from clinging to a sense of self that’s always under threat.
The Trap of Identification: Why tying our worth to external roles or internal narratives makes us vulnerable.
East Meets West: Blending psychology’s tools with spiritual insight for a more complete approach to healing.
Tom’s Personal Story: From anxiety and burnout as a medic to insight and clarity through inquiry and presence.
Meditation & Self-Inquiry: Practices that help dissolve the illusion of a separate, fixed self.
Impermanence & Clinging: Why resisting change and chasing stability only deepens suffering.
Beyond Self-Improvement: The trap of always trying to fix ourselves — and the freedom of radical acceptance.
Non-Dual Awareness: Realising our essence as awareness itself — not a separate self, but Being.

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