Roommates to Soulmates Course Details

In this Christmas Eve solo episode, I shift gears from our recent focus on online safety and talk about one of the most common—and painful—issues I see in long-term marriages: roommate syndrome. That quiet drift where intimacy fades, connection feels awkward, and marriage starts to feel more like co-parenting logistics than a romantic partnership. If you've ever laid in bed next to your wife feeling disconnected, unwanted, or unsure how things got this way, this episode is for you.

I share my own experience falling into roommate syndrome after years of marriage, kids, exhaustion, and unmet expectations. We talk about resentment, covert contracts, why nagging is often a cry for connection, and how most men were never taught how attraction actually works in marriage. I also explain why marriage—like jiu-jitsu or any skill—requires training, intentional effort, and doing what most men aren't willing to do if you want a relationship that's truly on fire.

Timeline Summary:

[0:00] What roommate syndrome feels like when intimacy has faded.

[1:39] Why so many marriages slowly slip into "friend zone" dynamics.

[2:02] The statistic that 57% of married couples experience this season.

[2:28] How resentment, logistics, and exhaustion kill connection.

[3:07] Closing out the online safety series and shifting topics.

[3:50] Why Larry chose to release this episode on Christmas Eve.

[4:26] Introducing roommate syndrome as a core marriage issue.

[5:03] Larry's 22-year marriage and personal experience with disconnection.

[6:17] How kids, work, and busyness slowly erode intimacy.

[6:53] When sex starts to feel transactional or obligatory.

[7:13] Why "nagging" is often a bid for attention and being seen.

[7:33] Sitting on opposite ends of the couch scrolling instead of connecting.

[7:56] Covert contracts and resentment in marriage.

[8:17] Why solving instead of listening makes wives feel unseen.

[8:56] Awkward date nights and avoiding real conversations about intimacy.

[9:18] A client story that began with signed divorce papers.

[9:41] How real change happens when a man does the work.

[10:15] Why becoming the man you're meant to be changes everything.

[10:57] Marriage requires training just like work or martial arts.

[11:14] Understanding attraction and speaking the right "currency" in marriage.

[11:51] Loving your spouse the way they receive love.

[12:11] Introducing the Roommates to Soulmates live course.

[12:56] Creating confidence, attraction, and intimacy without neediness.

[13:17] Why uncommon marriages require uncommon effort.

[13:38] The reality that only 10–12% of marriages feel "on fire."

[14:03] Rejecting the belief that passion naturally dies over time.

[14:32] Marriage as a skill set that can be learned and mastered.

[15:05] Course details, limited spots, and next steps.

[15:25] Christmas message and encouragement to live legendary.

Five Key Takeaways:

1. Roommate syndrome doesn't happen overnight—it's the result of neglecting connection, intimacy, and intentional effort.
2. Resentment grows when expectations go unspoken and needs are assumed instead of communicated.
3. Attraction in marriage is a learned skill, not something that automatically sustains itself over time.
4. Men must lead attraction with confidence, not needy or transactional energy.
5. Exceptional marriages are uncommon because they require uncommon effort, training, and intentional action.

Links & Resources:

• Roommates to Soulmates Course: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates
• 1st Phorm (Dad Edge Partner): https://1stphorm.com/dadedge
• Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1418

Closing Remark

If this episode hit home and reminded you that marriage doesn't have to settle into mediocrity, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. You weren't meant to be roommates—you were meant to build a marriage on fire. From my heart to yours, have a Merry Christmas and continue to live legendary.